Thursday, July 11, 2019

Interesting Contrasts

I have recently been doing some buying and selling via Facebook Marketplace. I'm not new to internet buying and selling and I'm very careful. That said, it can be very exciting to interact with people you wouldn't have met otherwise. Think of having nothing in common with someone other than they want to sell you their item and you wish to own that item.
Commerce. I described commerce and retail and that's one of the most public relationships you can have with strangers. Not that novel. Moving on.
This particular person wanted me to meet him at his house this morning. I can't quite say what I had assumed or expected, but I did not expect upper middle class - nay - middle upper class. The area was gorgeous with beautiful properties and very large houses. The neighborhood was full of huge houses. Most of the garages were at least as big, if not bigger than all of the houses in which I ever lived.
The man was pleasant enough. We completed our trade quickly, and I left. My introspective reflections began as soon as I was driving out of that neighborhood.
I don't want to say that I felt ridiculously inadequate, because that would be inaccurate. I certainly felt the difference in our situations, and though it reinforced how far I may be from my personal goals which gave a bit of a pang, but it mostly felt neutral. The fact that it felt so neutral felt really good. I really love having a lack of covet and instead feeling appreciation for life.
I've come a long way from feeling angry that my family didn't have the things and experiences that other families had. Between working through devaluing possessions and certain experiences and dealing with why I felt angry and letting it go, I am at a place where I can be happy for people without feeling like I was betraying my childhood. That stuff still runs deep but at least I'm self-aware and have my eye on it.
It was a refreshing way to begin the day, and it forced me to get out of bed before 10am. I was then looking forward to eating something and then going for a swim, but it began to rain (and thunder) before I could go. Blast! Oh well. Though I haven't logistically accomplished much on this day off, I have been ok with relaxing. After all, this is my work weekend and I will likely be picking up an extra shift on top of the already difficult Saturday and Sunday shifts.
That's it for my blog post. One more step to me truly appreciating myself enough to not feeling at all inadequate in the face of what is conventionally considered to be "successful;" as if a life of humility and contemplation is a failure.
Not that I'm a monk - I just don't seek fame or wealth.

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